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Cord Cutting - A way to heal.

Have you heard about cord cutting? Have you ever wondered what it meant or what that practice looks like? Well, I want to share my experience with you.

About a month ago, a week before the May 2021 full moon, I had a run in with my ex. Well actually I saw and/or heard from three of my exes. We all know how heavy it can feel when you run into someone you used to be in a relationship with. Sometimes we're flooded with anger over the wrongs that we suffered, or we feel hurt all over again at the loss of that relationship. If we're lucky, we get to feel indifferent and just keep moving forward.

In my case, I felt all of the above. It started with seeing an ex that had ghosted me about a year ago. I suppose I shouldn't really refer to him as an ex, so much as I should say "a guy I dated for a bit, who just ghosted me out of nowhere". He was driving his car and I'm pretty sure he didn't even look at me. This one, I felt a bit hurt over, feeling like I should have been allowed some type of closure. The next ex I had a run in with was the ex that had done me the most harm. He was the guy I was so sure I would spend the rest of my life with. The man I thought I was going to marry and start a family with. The guy that cheated on me and made sure I was as broken as humanly possible before he left. He's working at a local eatery around where I work and I just happened to stop there for lunch one day. He looked a bit stunned and wasn't quite able to be as smooth and confident as I'd remembered him. He looked run down, like time had not been kind and life even more so. I tried to smile and be polite, but my heart was screaming at me to get as far away from this man as possible. To put distance there before we got wrapped up in his lies and lifestyle again. This one filled me with anger. How dare he just be there after all this time... The last ex encounter was in the form of a text from an ex that hasn't moved on yet. This one made me feel indifferent. He was such a nice guy, but there just wasn't a spark for me.

Needless to say, all of these random encounters had my head spinning just a bit. I reached out to a friend of mine who gets down and dirty with the spiritual side of things, much like I do. I wanted to know what I was doing that was drawing my exes back to me and how to stop it. She told me to write a letter to each ex that I had seen. Write a letter that described everything I needed to let go of. Write them and burn them on the upcoming Full Moon. Releasing them with the intention of allowing all parties to move on. Once that was done we'd "cut some cords" on the New Moon and hopefully remove their energy from mine.

Cords are energetic tethers, hooks or claws that another person (either knowingly or unknowingly) attach to another person. Sometimes this happens out of fear of losing someone, sometimes it's because of emotional vampires, and sometimes they happen for darker reasons. The why is not what matters here, it's the fact that they are there in the first place that matters. If you feel TIED to someone, even though you've both tried to move on, it's possible there are cords still attached that need to be removed.

Cutting cords is a process of removing those energetic tethers. This can and is performed in a number of different ways. Energy healers can do this process via, Reiki, Meditation, Physical Practice, or dreamwork. Find what works best for you. In my case I had a more physical practice so as to really be able to SEE the cords being cut. This was done by writing down the names of the exes I'd had interactions with on separate pieces of paper and tying them to a piece of twine (any type of string or ribbon would do). My friend guided me through a meditation to visualize which chakras I felt the cord(s) tied into. The twine was then attached to my wrist and we then burned the section of twine between the names and my wrist. This practice allowed me to SEE that the cord had been severed. We then, took the severed names and placed them in an abalone shell and burned the names with the intention of releasing their energy.

In Reiki we do an energetic cutting of the energy when we are finished with a session, to make sure that our client's energy is in no way attached to us. Realistically this is a practice we should be doing in life. Constantly checking to make sure our energy is not attached and we are not allowing other's energy to get attached to us.

What do you think about cord cutting? Is it a practice you would try or do you have other methods of releasing cords? Let us know in the comments!

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